“When we give cheerfully and accept gratefully, everyone is blessed.” ― Maya Angelou Few things can be compared to the feeling of love. The very thought that someone adores and longs to be with you gives you a new lease on life even if your divorce or separation had been agonizing. Love gives life to our bodies and makes us walk with a spring in our step. Being in love is both exhilarating and heavenly and that is why you need the following these tips if you’re thinking of moving in with your partner. These tips are even more crucial if both or either of you have children. • Be realistic! You’re the one in love and not your kids. If you bear in mind that it’s only the two of you who are crazy in love for each other and not your kids, you’ll be a little bit more clear-headed when dealing with issues regarding your children. The kids may be secretly wishing that you and Mom/Dad will one day soon, get back together and that this new person won’t be around for long. The kids may even try to hate your spouse for fear of loyalty binds. The worst you can do is demand that they love your significant other. The more you “force” the relationship, the more the kids may make your life difficult and challenging, hoping that things will get back to “the way it used to be.” Give the kids time to accept your reality and help them let go of their fantasy. • Look for ways to have fun together. Whenever people are out of their home setting, they are more likely to behave a bit more carefree, less restrictive. It’s during such moments that quiet people tend to speak their minds and scream at the top of their voices while playing outdoor games. Having fun with the two sets of kids will go a long way in bonding the family. Come up with places to go and enjoy more togetherness. • Prepare the kids early in advance. It’s always a good idea to let your kids know that you’re in a relationship long before you move in with your partner. The mistake most of us make is to think that they’re kids and we’re adults. Truth is, even if they are kids, they’re part of you and if not treated with respect, can make your world a living hell. Be courteous enough to involve them from as soon as you feel this is a serious and committed relationship. Allow your partner to visit and participate in some of the family activities. This will help break the ice long before you get married. • Give much but expect less. This slogan will help you to stay sane when you receive no gratitude from the people you sacrifice for. If you keep weighing what you receive against what you give, you will be discouraged and burn out. Some kids will think that you are faking and may seem indifferent in the beginning. However, if you persist on being affectionate and loving they will turn around and return your kindness.

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