Making the Most of Your Weekend
as a Stepmom
Weekends can be especially challenging for stepmoms. Between managing work, running errands, and helping kids with their activities, it can feel like you’re always “on”—never quite getting a real break. And sometimes, the thought of carving out a little time just for yourself can bring up feelings of guilt. Maybe you’re asking, “Is it selfish to want some alone time? To just unwind or enjoy a break from stepmom duties?”
You’re definitely not alone in these thoughts, and no, it’s not selfish. In fact, creating space for yourself on the weekends can actually make family life feel more fulfilling. Here are some simple but impactful ways to make the most of your weekends, so you can feel recharged, connected, and ready for the week ahead.
Take a Walk and Breathe In Some Fresh Air
A walk can do wonders, especially when you’re feeling overwhelmed or simply in need of a reset. Physical exercise not only boosts your mood by increasing those feel-good hormones, but it also gives you a chance to clear your mind. Try making it a routine—whether it’s a solo stroll to soak in some quiet or a walk with your partner to reconnect and share what’s been on each of your minds over the week.
Nature can be grounding, even if it’s just a walk around the block or in a nearby park. Listen to the sounds around you, notice the colors of the leaves or the feeling of the air—it’s a small step that makes a big difference.
Dive Into a Hobby Just for You
It’s easy to put yourself on the back burner, especially when you’re juggling family and stepmom responsibilities. But taking up a hobby, even for just a little while each weekend, can give you a refreshing break from everything. When I moved to Virginia, for example, I tried my hand at acrylic painting. I found it so rewarding because it allowed my mind to focus on something entirely separate from my everyday worries. Since then, I've picked up watercolor and discovered another aspect of myself.
Maybe there’s something you’ve wanted to try but haven’t yet explored. Cooking, photography, knitting, pottery—whatever it may be, lean into something that sparks your curiosity. Platforms like YouTube can be helpful if you’re learning something new, and local community centers often have beginner-friendly classes. This is your time to let yourself explore something just for you.
Journal to Process and Reflect
If you’ve been following my journey, you probably know how much I value journaling. It’s been one of my go-to practices for years, and it genuinely helps me manage stress and find clarity, even on the tough days.
I've recently discovered Archer & Olive journals. They are amazing - and I can do my watercolor painting inside as well.
Journaling allows you to put all your thoughts down on paper—no judgment, just a safe place to process whatever’s on your mind.
If you’re new to journaling, start with a simple prompt: “What am I feeling today, and what do I need?” You might be surprised by how much lighter you feel afterward. Recently, I’ve been using an Archer & Olive journal because it allows me to experiment with watercolor painting on the pages. Find a journal that feels like yours, and let it become a trusted space for you.
Meet Up with a Friend for Some Real Connection
Let’s be honest: not everyone fully gets the complexities of being a stepmom, which can sometimes feel isolating. Having a friend to meet up with can be a great way to take your mind off things, relax, and talk about the parts of life that have nothing to do with your role as a stepmom. And, of course, you can bring up what’s been challenging if you need to get something off your chest, but don’t feel like you have to.
If you don’t have other stepmom friends, that’s okay. Sometimes talking to someone who’s outside of your stepmom world can give you a fresh perspective and help you reset. Go grab coffee, have a brunch date, or even schedule a virtual meet-up if getting out is tough. The key is to nurture those connections that remind you of all the things you enjoy outside of family responsibilities.
Action Step: Pick One Thing Just for You
What’s one thing you’ll try today? Choose one idea that resonates with you, whether it’s a walk, a hobby, or a quick meet-up with a friend. Leave a comment below and share your plan! Supporting each other makes the journey so much easier, and you deserve this time to recharge.
Remember, a little self-care isn’t selfish—it’s necessary. You’re doing an incredible job, and taking a bit of time for yourself will only make you feel more ready to handle all the ups and downs that come with being a stepmom. Enjoy your weekend—you’ve earned it.
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I’m going to check out those Archer and Olive journals. I’ve been in and out of the journaling habit. I think it’s time to get back into that habit again.
Oh, and coming up next week on Monday, October 24th is National Take Back Your Time Day. So maybe we can all think about and plan out how we’ll take back some of our time for ourselves. Because remember that old oxygen mask directive–you’ve gotta put on the oxygen mask yourself before you can help others.