I don’t know if you heard, but my laptop stopped working while I was away visiting family in Canada. It just wouldn’t open. Caput. At first, I wanted to scream but then realized that wouldn’t change anything, other than release some of the stress I was going through.
Then I asked my trusted Hubby to come save me by trying to figure out what was going on. He was stumped. I was upset at him because I thought he would be able to fix it in no time. Not today. So I called customer support and went through the unplug, remove battery, reboot, rinse and repeat. You get my drift. Nothing was working.
So finally, I must send my laptop to major repair land, fearing what they were going to do with all my work. That’s when I decided to keep my hard drive safe at home. It’s been three weeks that I’m without my laptop, trying to stay calm and productive. It’s not been easy.
I’ve been short tempered with poor dear Hubby because we’ve been sharing our home desktop (I was able to transfer most of my files there). I was glad that I had the foresight to automate some of my work so that you would continue to get my daily tips, but still, I felt disconnected. I’ve now become addicted to my laptop and it was time to learn to let go.
For years, I’ve told my clients the importance of taking care of themselves, sharing ways to deal with stress and conflict. It was time for me to put those words back into my mouth. I know it’s not easy to relax, especially at a time when there is much at stake (for me, it’s my life passion, for others, it’s their marriage or family)
Here are a few things that I’m doing to help me deal with the situation and you can do to:
Know that it’s not a life sentence and things will get better
Your partner/spouse can’t be held accountable for all the things that go wrong in your life
Let others know what’s going on with you. Share your thoughts and emotions and be sure to let them know you are just venting and not blaming.
Go for a walk, do something you’ve been meaning to do for a long time, visit family or friends. I decided to get rid of papers that were cluttering my space
Look for an alternative to solving the problem. I’ve been using my cellphone, my iPad and our home desktop. There is always a solution out there. It’s just a matter of finding it.
Appreciate that others are really trying to help you. Let them.
Find the positive in what’s happening. There is always something good in all situations.