The 30-Year Stew: Why Playing the Long Game Matters
A story about a stepmom, a long-forgotten meal, and the quiet power of patience, pause, and playing the long game in stepmotherhood.
Read MoreI’ve been a long-time follower of Alison Armstrong and love her programs about Understanding Men, Celebrating Women. When I first started dating Bernard, we’d get into these arguments about the way we’d talk to each other. I kept telling him “You just don’t get it, do you?” and of course, he’d respond with “No, it’s you who doesn’t get it!”.
It seems that we were both right. We didn’t get each other. When I stumbled upon Alison’s work, it was a light bulb moment for me in realizing that my husband wasn’t my hairy girlfriend and I needed to treat him as a man. When I decided to change my way of interacting with Bernard, he changed with me. Our relationship with each other became more of a partnership. We learned how to be on the same page by first understanding our partnership as husband and wife which in turned affected how we raised our kids together.
Here is a video of Alison explaining men and women in relationship. I’d love to hear what your responses are to what she has to say.
NOTE: I know we're not cavemen and women, but hey, sometimes I think we revert back to those behaviors whether we like it or not.
What were some of your take aways from this post? What are some of the tips you heard from Alison that helped you to understand your partner in a different or better way?
Leave a comment below. I'd love to hear your thoughts.
Claudette Chenevert works with stepmoms who are struggling to create a cohesive family. As a Master Stepfamily coach, she provides education, support and tools enabling families to achieve their goals within a specific time frame, often surpassing expectations. She helps you find what works best in your situation so that you will be able to create the kind of family you truly want. For more information about her programs and services, go to https://www.stepmomcoach.com
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