7 Keys To Successfully Build A Strong Couple Relationship

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When we marry, we make a commitment to each other. That commitment will be tested. Staying married requires time, energy, and work. Creating a strong couple relationship increases your odds of success.

This is especially true for couples who bring children from previous relationships into their marriage. You become an instant family at a time when you may still be trying to adapt to being a couple instead of independent individuals.

Once children are present, many couples forget about themselves and neglect their special relationship. This is especially true for stepparents who are also trying to figure out new family roles. Use these seven keys to build a strong couple relationship.

  1. Set up a weekly date.

Keep the date on the same day of the week. This helps create a habit and a routine. Set up a regular babysitter schedule. If the cost of a sitter is a deterrent, swap the favor with a friend or neighbor who also needs a chance to go out alone with a significant other. Pick a date activity that fits your budget. Go for a walk. Visit a park and look at the stars. Explore your neighborhood. Stroll the aisles of a favorite store-book, hardware, and hobby shops are more fun with your best friend. Don’t talk about problems or the kids. Reserve this time to talk about your relationship as a couple. Focus on dreams and goals that excite both of you. Most of all, enjoy your partner’s company. If you have to, put your cell phone on vibrate so you don’t miss this opportunity to reconnect.

  1. Set a regular meeting time to talk about issues.

Create an agenda with ONE topic and both a start time and an end time. No one likes a meeting that promises to go on forever. Knowing that everything, including the kitchen sink, is not being discussed helps to set the tone of the meeting. Create a space to look for solutions rather than blame placing. Don’t make every meeting about solving problems. Use this time to compliment and express appreciation for what went well during the week.

  1. Give yourselves time to relax.

Stress is part of our everyday lives and can be good, but too much stress can create havoc in relationships and in the state of our health. We get angry more quickly, say things that we don’t mean to say, and let situations and emotions spiral out of control when we have little time to refresh ourselves. Create a time and space within your day to meditate, listen to relaxing music, or simply do deep breathing. Although this may sound too simple to do any good, our brains need down time and so do our bodies. It helps to reconnect with yourself in order to reconnect with your partner/spouse. Five minutes a day can do wonders for a relationship.

  1. Practice self-disclosure.

This increases your level of marital satisfaction as well as your intimacy towards each other. Create boundaries for what and how much you are willing to share. Remember that too much self-disclosure can be destructive and manipulative. Sharing only negative issues is looked upon as criticism and makes your partner feel inadequate and defensive.

  1. Share your dreams with one another.

Nothing feels more real than sharing a life-long goal with someone you love. You let your partner see a part of you that few get to see. By doing this, you now have an ally to help you get closer to your dream. Sharing your dreams increases your level of intimacy and strengthens your bond with one another.

  1. Surprise your partner with little messages.

Remember when you started seeing your partner? You loved to send little notes or call just to say hi? As time goes by, we tend to forget those little notes. Take a few minutes to write something on pieces of paper or note cards and place them in fun and surprising places such as in a coat pocket, in a book, underneath a plate, or in the bed. Be creative and have fun.

  1. Take the time to say thank you.

Expressing your gratitude to your partner on a daily basis shows that you notice and care. Everyone needs to know that whatever they do, it matters to someone. This is especially true for your partner. What better way to give encouragement than by acknowledging them for all that they do for you?

Start building a stronger relationship as a couple now with these seven keys: weekly dates, a regular meeting time to talk about issues, time to relax, positive self-disclosure, the sharing of your dreams, love notes, and taking the time to say thank you. May you as a couple and you as a family enjoy the outcome.

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CLAUDETTE CHENEVERT, aka The Stepmom Coach, works with women as they struggle to create a cohesive family life. As a speaker, author and stepfamily professional, Claudette mentors and guides stepmothers through the process of establishing a harmonious and thriving home life for their families. Her newest title, “The Stepmom’s Book of Boundaries,” is now available on Amazon.com and elsewhere. Learn about her coaching practice and self-study program for stepmoms at StepmomCoach.com.

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