Boundaries make us less tense, happier and more secure.
They’re also one of the few things about stepfamily life we can control. The Stepmom’s Book of Boundaries companion card deck—created by a stepmom for stepmoms and their families—makes it fun and easy to reach higher ground and take control over how your white picket fence dream plays out. Some cards focus on you, others focus on partnership. Others still suggest ways you can get your (step-)children involved.
No matter what, your goal is to: Consider, talk about and set limits that’ll work well in your home. Just like The Stepmom’s Book of Boundaries itself, each of the (52) cards in Claudette Chenevert’s artfully-designed deck plays a role in helping you set limits which you, your partner and the kids will benefit from. The best way to approach it? Keep an open mind, playfully exploring your views on all aspects of stepfamily life!
Multiple ways to play give you ample opportunity to learn and practice skills which will benefit you always. Yet, why bother? Let’s ask Claudette: “Whenever a ‘situation’ arose, Bernard and I would have a couple’s meeting and take that time to talk about what the real issue was. What we fought or disagreed over always came back to a need for boundaries—clearly defined boundaries. So, one day, we wrote them out.”
They then sealed that list with a kiss and signed it, agreeing to help one another live their best lives. Thus, the card deck was born! Each card touches on a different topic, helping you launch a discussion with yourself, your partner and/or the kids. There are (52) cards total: one for each week of the year. But use them anytime to start a conversation or independently reflect on issues you’re tired of rehashing without resolving.
Exclusive Card Deck Perks & Bonuses
Claudette takes her role as The Stepmom Coach seriously and is not the kind of woman to leave her stepmom sisters hanging! From 1-on-1 or couple’s coaching to online coursework and her recently-launched Annual Stepfamily Summit, she’s someone you can trust to constantly be thinking up ways to make life easier on you and those you care about most. That’s exactly what led her to create this card deck in the first place.
In addition to being able to share decades of wisdom and advice with you, Claudette created this web page with “interactive” play in mind. The Access Code included with early editions of her card deck gives modern stepmoms entre to an exclusive community of women who long to set realistic boundaries, consequences, limits and more: Women who, like you, want to get closer to realizing their white picket fence dreams.
- Stuck on a particular topic? Browse by card title.
- Struggling to set a boundary? Login and ask for help.
- Having a rough day? Ask fellow stepmoms for support.
- Wanna track your progress? Refer to your online journal.
- Can’t get your partner to play along? Request a free consult.
You can’t control what goes on in the other home but you can set rules and boundaries which make life less stressful in your home—and in your life, in general. The Stepmom’s Book of Boundaries 52-Card Deck was designed with YOU in mind. Begin there, giving yourself the gift of self-boundaries and protecting yourself against stressors which naturally come from living the kind of life you never dreamed would be your reality.
As Claudette says: “I’ve been a mom since 1983 and a stepmom since 1990. I know how hard setting healthy boundaries is. Letting the kids, the ex or ourselves do what we want can sometime seem easiest—but, believe me, there will be consequences to pay. The quicker you focus on what you’d like to see happen, the quicker you’ll see results.” In a nutshell? It’s time to reclaim your personal stake in power and control.
By purchasing your 52-Card Deck, you’ve taken a BIG first step toward setting healthy boundaries in your life and in your home. To get the most out of it—and truly take control over how your white picket fence dream plays out—pair yours with The Stepmom’s Book of Boundaries. If you’re a fan of Claudette’s card deck and book, be sure to let others know by spreading the word on social media and by posting a review on Amazon.